SHMUZ FINDING AND KEEPING

The shadchan says in that singsong voice -“So tell me what you’re looking for?” And out comes the laundry list. I need someone who is extroverted funny, and outgoing. “I need a woman who is very frum, tolerant, and kind. I need a bachur who is a take-charge type, strong, but not headstrong. The lists are long, and the benchmarks are detailed and specific. And unwittingly, that is how many people make their first big mistake in dating. They arent looking for their bashert (predestined match); they have already formed him in their minds, and now theyre looking for the one that comes the closest to that image. This powerful book addresses these issues: nAvoid the two bigmistakes thatmost people make when dating. nWhat to look for, what not to look for in a spouse nThe biggest mistake married couples make nWhat happens if you think you married the wrong one?